I find the most truthful moments in life to be the ones that offer the most wisdom, insight and passion. I had the honour of experiencing one of these special moments late last week at my uncle's memorial service. There were a number of great speakers who shared their heartfelt, funny and inspirational memories of my uncle, but my aunt's speech was by far the most touching.
She started by telling us that in the immediate hours and days after her husband's death she began to make a list of all the things she would miss about him. After a few more days she began to list the things she would NOT miss about him, but after some more time passed she came to realize that she would actually miss all his quirks and irritating habits as much as his charming ones. This is one of the most truthful insights I have ever heard.
When we find a partner, fall in love and commit to spending a lifetime with them we take the good, the bad and the ugly. As much as their faults drive us crazy or we nag them to do a chore just the way we like it we still love them. And in this ability to overlook our partner's "imperfections" lies the truth about love and Mr./Mrs.Perfect. Real love, true love, adores the "imperfections", looks past the quirks and recognizes our perfect partner as being the person that offers just the right balance of perfection and flaws to compliment our own. Being able to identify, accept and actually cherish our partner's flaws is truly what makes loving them flawless. A very truthful moment!
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